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What Are You Living For?

I got in my car after work Monday evening and turned on my radio. I had been listening to the KU game on Saturday and then had turned it off. A song about being beautiful came on, and I decided to listen to it. As I was about to switch back over to my typical Air1 or news radio, the next song caught my attention:

“Oh no, here we go again

Fighting over what I said

I’m sorry, yeah I’m sorry”

Wait: did I just hear that right? What is this song? This sounds like such an abusive or dysfunctional relationship… these were just a few of the questions and thoughts that began running through my mind. I ended up finishing the song and became more and more saddened by what I heard and what is being fed to our youth today. It turns out the song was “Tell Me You Love Me” by Demi Lovato. I have added the full song lyrics to the end if you want to read them, but I want to highlight a few lines that really stuck out to me.

“And all my friends, they know and it’s true

I don’t know who I am without you”

 

“No, you ain’t nobody ’til you got somebody

You ain’t nobody ’til you got somebody”

In a world that prides itself on women’s rights and power, these two lines so clearly state the reality of what is being taught to young ladies across the board. As Christians, we are often at the front of the line. “Do you have a boyfriend yet?” “How old are you now? Don’t you think you should be thinking about getting married?” “It so sad that she’s not married yet!” These are just a few of the questions and statements I myself have been barraged by through the years. All too often we look to our earthly relationships for validation, identify and belonging, when the only one that we should make the statement “I don’t know who I am without you” about is God. He is the only place we can find our true lasting identity, and without Him, we are lost and will continue to look towards the things of earth to fulfill us.

Which brings us to the next line:

“I don’t know what I’m living for

If I’m living without you”

All too often we think that if we lose that job, that relationship, that “fill in the blank…” then we are not going to know who we are. And in truth, often times we don’t. We have been taught to base our identity so fully on what we do or what we have that we are lost without them. Here is the exciting news though: when we are looking to God for our identity, we will know who we truly are and will be taken places and do things we never thought possible! He becomes our life and breath, and His will the deciding factor in all we do. And there are times that His will is not marriage, but ministry and service. You see, regardless of our relationship status, without God we cannot know what we are living for. Finding God’s ultimate plan for your life and living it to the fullest is the best life we can have. No matter what God’s plan is regarding our current and/or future relationships, always be putting your relationship with Him first. For He is all we need, which brings us to the last line I want to highlight:

“Everything I need

Is standing in front of me

I know that we will be alright, alright, yeah

Through the ups and downs

Baby, I’ma stick around

I promise we will be alright, alright”

God is all we need. Yes, we need food and water, air, etc. to live, but at the end of the day, it is all meaningless and worthless without God. We cannot and will not ever be able to fill the need that only He can fill. And yet we still try. This song is not just a song that reflects the “world’s” view. We as the Church all too often fall into the same thing whether it be through legalistic teaching or through the teaching that “God just wants us to be happy.” God is about grace and redemption and making us into something new. He wants to fill us and give us the best, not the cheap imitations that the world has to offer.

So today, will you make sure that you are only saying “I don’t know who I am without you” about God? If you find that you are finding your identity in things other than God, please turn back and surrender those things to Him. His plans are perfect, and His blessings are greater than anything you can even begin to imagine.

Blessings!

Allison

“Tell Me You Love Me”

by Demi Lovato

Oh no, here we go again

Fighting over what I said

I’m sorry, yeah I’m sorry

Bad at love, no, I’m not good at this

But I can’t say I’m innocent

Not hardly, but I’m sorry

And all my friends, they know and it’s true

I don’t know who I am without you

I got it bad, baby

Got it bad

Oh, tell me you love me

I need someone on days like this, I do

On days like this

Oh, tell me you love me

I need someone

On days like this, I do

On days like this

Oh, can you hear my heart say

Ooohhhh, ooh

No, you ain’t nobody ’til you got somebody

You ain’t nobody ’til you got somebody

And I hope I never see the day

That you move on and be happy without me

Without me

What’s my hand without your heart to hold?

I don’t know what I’m living for

If I’m living without you

All my friends, they know and it’s true

I don’t know who I am without you

I’ve got it bad, baby

I got it bad

Oh, tell me you love me

I need someone on days like this, I do

On days like this

Oh, tell me you love me

I need someone

On days like this, I do

On days like this

Oh, can you hear my heart say

Ooohhhh, ooh

You ain’t nobody ’til you got somebody

You ain’t nobody ’til you got somebody

My heart’s like

Ooooh, ooh

No, you ain’t nobody ’til you got somebody

You ain’t nobody ’til you got somebody

Everything I need

Is standing in front of me

I know that we will be alright, alright, yeah

Through the ups and downs

Baby, I’ma stick around

I promise we will be alright, alright

Oh, tell me you love me

I need someone on days like this, I do

On days like this

Oh, tell me you love me

I need someone

On days like this, I do

On days like this

Oh, can you hear my heart say

Ooohhhh, ooh

You ain’t nobody ’til you got somebody

You ain’t nobody ’til you got somebody

My heart’s like

Ooooh, ooh

Everything I need

Is standing right in front of me

I know that we will be alright, alright, yeah

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